Meetups or Get-Togethers

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Permalink Reply by Brandy Drake on December 8, 2010 at 11:38am

It does make since. I don't know if there is I personally found any. I don't talk much to other wives. My friends have come so use to my lifestyle that we just plan shopping days and stuff for when he is out. I also found that coming up with projects like painting and stuff pass the time. It is something you get use to after a while.

Permalink Reply by Cari Hansen on December 19, 2010 at 9:25pm

Hey there really aren't many social sites for woman to chat with.  I tried here and on facebook under oilfield babes section, some people are supportive however, it is weird trying to make any friends  -  good luck and welcome!

Permalink Reply by bradford johnson on December 24, 2010 at 10:07am

totally!!! it is alittle lonely since as yousaid this is a lifestyle! i often feel out of the loop so to speak, and believe it or not most other wives that ive met keep close to home and didnt socialize together much,  lately ive gotten close to a few new wifes in my area yet we never seem to get together we just talk about it. i think youve got a great idea tho and maybe u can get some thing going there, let me know how it goes, ph by the way im kecia johnson, my husband is with nomac and in pennsvania for the last year, home ever two weeks, hang in there and be aggressive  im sure there are lots of women who feel the same and are just waiting for some one to wake them up!!! good luck hon keep in touch.

Permalink Reply by Becky Watts on December 24, 2010 at 12:45pm

I'm in North East Texas and wouldn't mind an in-person support/social group!  Let me know if anybody is around!

Permalink Reply by Leigh Johanna Tapia on December 28, 2010 at 7:51pm

I live in Tomball so we are close to Houston.  I dont know any other oilfield wives because all the guys my husband works with live too far away for us to like, hang out.  Its hard to make friends  when your husband is in the oilfield because when they are home, you just want to be with them and not really hang out with anyone else and then when they are gone, you're all on your own. I dont know of any social groups either but someone should start one ASAP.

Permalink Reply by angiem357 on January 3, 2011 at 8:41pm

I'm really glad someone else pointed this out. My friends feel almost 'used' because I practically ignore them for 14 days straight, withdraw for a few after he leaves because (WTH is wrong with me?!) I'm still having a hard time with this, and then I call them all ready to go out or do something. They don't like that. Even though I'm there for them if he's home, but only through phone or text because I refuse to leave his side. I guess it really does take another woman who's either been there or currently experiencing the oilfield life to bond with so they understand why you're so "flaky."

 

Troy's on a hitch right now. I'm headed to the deer lease this weekend. I get one more deer before I tag out and season's over on the 16th which, of course, I won't make, because his hitch is over on Friday the 14th so I have to be here. He's not a hunter. Anyway, if you'd like to meet up sometime during the week for dinner or something, I'd be happy to meet you somewhere. Bring the kids if you have 'em; I don't mind!

Permalink Reply by Brandy Drake on January 3, 2011 at 9:33pm

I never really thought about it but you do have a point.  At some point I have had a few friends that have felt that way and I guess I just looked at it as just one of those things.  I am truely lucky that I have a really close friend that is always ready for something when he is gone and understands when he is in.  She is not involved with anyone in the patch but she does understand wanting to be with your other half.  So all and all I am just lucky.  So what area are you in?

Permalink Reply by angiem357 on January 3, 2011 at 9:47pm

I'm down near Sugar Land. Oddly enough, about a mile away from his company office! I don't mind driving somewhere else, though. Where are you?

Permalink Reply by Brandy Drake on January 3, 2011 at 9:57pm

I am up in Corsicana about 3 1/2 to 4 hours north of Houston.  

Permalink Reply by telitta on December 28, 2010 at 11:19pm

I don't belong to none i just actually found the sight....hopeing to give myself some insight on all things. I am actually from Georgia who moved to Texas and now have left Texas and have to say found myself in Duson la would be great for anyone out there that is....simple fact new to town family in Ga and just trying to make it.

Permalink Reply by Brandy Drake on January 3, 2011 at 9:59pm

I became a member of this site about a year ago and love it...It is a great place for advice and to keep up with what is going on in the patch other than what our men have to say lol

Permalink Reply by Victoria Pace on January 17, 2011 at 5:53pm

We recently moved from West Texas to East Texas - Frac. Meeting and making new friends in the oilfield has always been hard. Back in West Texas there was a clique of wives that were the exception - none of them had ever been displaced (more of a local thing with wives that knew each other before) and trust me - if you weren't already IN - it was hard as hell to GET IN. And I'm not a clique girl, not a party hound, won't go out and whoop it up while my husband is out in the cold and rain working his a** off for us - and a lot of people don't understand that. They wanna say "go out and have a good time without him and he can join you when he gets off work" --- but "They" are usually the friends whose husbands work 40/60 hours a week - not 200.

It is definitely a whole different world in the oilfield. But he was in it when I fell in love with him - and in 5 years we've been married we adjusted ourselves accordingly.

And I think sometimes, we learn to be loners and become rather unapproachable. Even my BFF knows not to call, text, FB or anything if my husband is home, and I think sometimes there are people in your life that don't understand that -- they take is as you're dropping them at a moments notice, but it's just a part of our life. He (WE) come first, either a friend understands and accepts what that means or they go away soon enough.

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