New to the oilfield relationship - to make it work & stay close

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Permalink Reply by NickiCole on January 12, 2011 at 11:38am

Hi there.
My husband has worked overseas in Suadi Arabia on a jack up rig for almost 5 years. They have horrible internet connections and they used to have in room internet but the union or in his words "those stupid Egyptians" took it away. Emails have basically gone down the drain since then and sending him pictures have too because he has to use public rig computers now which they keep histories on and monitor (just FYI).
Times are hard and we used to go several days without talking and when he is gone for almost 40 days it does become hard especially when some days dealing with work and kids I miss him and his help so badly I just want to cry. BUT he got a prepaid "Suadi" phone and now he sends me texts throughout the day and calls me at least 3x a week. It may sound silly but when I wake up I immediately check my cell phone to see if he sent me a good morning text. This is the next best thing to actually telling me this every morning and it makes me feel closer to him.
However, when I reply back to his "Saudi" phone my cell phone provider does charge me international rates so the phone bill can become rather expensive and if this would be a problem if you cared, but we don't :).

Hopefully this is something that may help you. And just remember that he will come home eventually and during his time off the world is a better place.
*hugs*~NIC

Permalink Reply by Kellie Kennedy on September 1, 2011 at 3:59pm

lol you do not sound silly to me! I email hubby right before I go to sleep and when I wake there is always a reply. It makes waking up and going to sleep without him much eaiser!

Permalink Reply by LadyinWaiting on December 18, 2011 at 3:18pm

Hi all,

Way old thread, I know, but I figured I should follow up and let you know how much all of your advice helped me get used to this unusual lifestyle.  

My Oilfield guy & I just got married & are crazy happy to have each other. The separations are still hard, but the communications have improved immensely, in both technological and relationship ways.  We email every day and on most days we can even do a  call.  We've come to rely on those connections & they help so much.

Now my challenge is the keeping busy part. I'm trying to focus on my writing, but as anyone who writes knows, it takes a brand of discipline that is sometimes elusive.  

Many thanks to all of you for your words of encouragement. 

Permalink Reply by Sandra Louise on January 10, 2012 at 5:35am

Congratulations on your marriage! My boyfriend is gone on a 2/1 rotation and I know how hard it can be just waiting on that phone call. The more you can do to stay busy the better (I have become a fantastic house keeper ;-) ) If you ever want to talk, im here.

Permalink Reply by Vanessa Was on January 29, 2012 at 6:05pm

Congrats on your marriage!! I couldnt believe how you hit the nail so exactly on the process of emotions we go through while they're gone. I know it was a long time ago but i just came across this thread. My boyfriend is on a five week hitch this time which is the longest he's been away from home. His spring break up is coming reasonably soon, the rig has to shut down for cariboo migration... Some nights i sit here and think please some one just see a damn cariboo so it'll come sooner.

Finding this site makes it so much better some how though. It's the kind of support you need that you really can't get from even your closest friends if they dont understand.

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