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UNITED STATES |
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1769 |
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-217 |
5/18/12 |
CANADA |
5/17/13 |
118 | +5 |
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0 |
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USA OFFSHORE |
5/17/13 |
52 |
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5/18/12 |
INTERNATIONAL |
04/2013 |
1301 |
+33 |
3/2013 |
+123 |
4/2012 |
World Oilfield Forum
Today is a day I hate it a lot..... Most days I just roll with it because that what you have to do. When it is in their blood there is nothing you can do. Would I leave because of it... NO! I have been with this man everyday for 9 years, except when he is gone. wouldn't know what to do. He keeps saying after the first of the year he will change jobs and stay home. he has been saying that for 9 years.
I'm just whining today. I hired some boys to come over and do a job for me in the back yard that there has just not been enough time to get done when he is home. I don't like wasting his $$$ that way, he works to hard for it. but, sometimes you have to have help. I told him what I had done, I love this man, his only comment was "good! You will not be doing the work and I don't have to when I get home" Now how can you not love that?
I did not realize there was other women out there to talk to about it this, until I ran across this web site early today. You talk to your friends that their husbands are home everyday, they do not understand. how can you live this way? aren't you scared of being home alone everyday? don't you worry about him? all you girls know same old comments you get all the time.The fuss about their husbands home everyday. Rolls off of you like water off a duck. So now I barley even mention he is gone except in passing. "Bill's gone" now they don't even ask anymore. Suits me just fine.
I know I am just rambling, but I can write all this down with judgement.
There are pros and cons
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Cons:
Okay I have complained enough...
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Permalink Reply by Sherry Hart on Welcome to the forum, Terry!
You're not complaining or whining - you're being human. We've all been there and done that; all you have to do is read the comment boards under this "community". Usually I do just fine when mine's gone for his two week hitch (and I know that's nothing compared to some of you wives and girlfriends out there whose guys don't have a set schedule), but sometimes things happen when I just need to feel his arms around me, making me feel everything will be okay. His hugs make me feel all better. We talk nightly, but it just isn't the same.
Hang in there, enjoy the time you DO have together, and remember how hard they work to take care of us and our kids. As you said, it's in their blood and how blessed are they who not only enjoy what they do, but which also provides for a roof over our heads and food on our tables.
Permalink Reply by Terry on Thank you for your comments. yesterday I hated it, but today it's okay. He finally had signal and could call last night. Before the wind changed we talked about 10 minutes. He is in ND. He will be home the 20th of August. now that I have a date when he will be home, I can handle anything. He is so funny, he was worried about the dogs in the heat. Sometimes it makes it easier to talk about everything else beside the fact that he is gone.
He makes laugh, he comes home for 3 to 4 weeks and then starts getting antsie.
I have contractors coming tonight to give me estimates on a deck extension. I'm going to spend some of his HARD earned $$$ for something we will both enjoy.
I bouught tickets for the Broncos game in KC today and ordered Razorback tickes for Nov. He is a huge football fan, I enjoy the benifits of his team winning after the game.
Thank you again for answering. It was nice to hear from someone that understands the boredom, the lonliness, and the ear.
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Permalink Reply by Tanya Beeks on I know that the friend have no idea what it's like.
Mine seem to think I have it made with him gone but they dont understand that with him gone everything falls on my shoulders when it comes to the kids and house (we have 5 kids ages 19, 17, 11, 9, and 5). I dont like strange people in my house so I do most of the repairs myself.
It's groups like this that help out alot.
This is only one of the places I come to, The first one I found was when I googled roughneck wives. I still dont have anyone close though, I'm in north west missouri outside of Kansas City. lol
Permalink Reply by Vanessa Was on It's so amazing to see there are so many wonderful wives and girlfriends out there. And that our struggles are so alike. some how it is always the nights that are the hardest. Before my man left we had only had a couple of nights apart since the day we met. The first night alone was the hardest. It seems like a tease that ill finally get used to falling asleep on him again, and his snoring like a freight train, and then in no time ill have to experience that first night all over again...
Seeing other couples together destroys me too...
Any way, that's my bit of venting. im overjoyed ive found this site and maybe i can connect with some one who understands.
Permalink Reply by RedBird on He has to adjust too - it's better now he's no longer doing nights, but he's still on "rig time" when he gets home and he's fidgety and impossible to relax around. It takes him three days to "come down" and feel ok again. On the weekend before he goes back he gets PRT (pre-rig tension) as well, which does not make for a fun time. He hates anything being arranged for the first and last weekends when he's around (which leaves just the ONE weekend then) so I have to turn a lot of things down. It helps that he has been doing this since we met, so I don't know any other way with him and it also helps that we are bloody strong and still feel the Love (he's amazing). LOTS of shoulder rubs also help too!
I worry though - we're neither getting any younger (me - 40s, him 50s) and pensions in our country are heavily based on the stock market, so you can imagine what the last three recessions have done to any future savings. He wants about five more years, so he has to earn to save for when he retires. He's now talking about really cashing in on going overseas, which is month-on , month-off. I have told him to go for it, mainly because my career is virtually dead in the water, but I will miss him. I would like to say its something you get used to, but you don't. That parting still hurts.
Permalink Reply by Elizabeth on Its amazing how I read all these comments and it is EXACTLY how I feel!!! Im so glad I found this forum. Its nice to know Im not alone in feeling this. I know exactly what u mean about feelings his arms around you. And it seems whenever I need him the most, if Ive had a bad day or something, he cant be there for me and it sucks. I wish a lot of the time I could just have a normal relationship. And I find myself turning down doing stuff when hes off work because we have so little time together I want to be with him the entire time hes home to make up for the time when hes not here. This weekend I've been hating it TONS!
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