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LAST COUNT DATE |
COUNT |
CHANGE FROM PRIOR COUNT |
DATE OF PRIOR COUNT |
CHANGE FROM LAST YEAR |
DATE OF LAST YEARS COUNT |
UNITED STATES |
5/10/13 |
1769 |
+5 |
5/3/13 |
-205 |
5/11/12 |
CANADA |
5/10/13 |
118 |
-3 |
5/3/13 |
-2 |
5/11/12 |
USA OFFSHORE |
5/10/13 |
50 |
-1 |
5/3/13 |
+5 |
5/11/12 |
INTERNATIONAL |
04/2013 |
1301 |
+33 |
3/2013 |
+123 |
4/2012 |
World Oilfield Forum
My younger son had a fundraiser at school tonight and my husband was not here for it. It was a dinner at a resturant. We saw lot's of my son's past teacher's and my older son got to see some teachers from his past school years. My husband used to work a 14 & 14 and was home for a lot more, then he is now. It's been a little harder because with a 7 & 7 we only really get 5 days if were lucky because he has about an 8hr. drive for crew change and this week we are lucky to get 3 days because of other business he has to attend to.
Let me say that he truly is my very best friend and I guess that's why it was so hard tonight. Usually I get through this kind of stuff just fine but for some reason tonight was different. I don't like to say anything to him because I don't like to upset him for such things because he loves his job and works so hard for us....So I guess this is just my time to let it out.
So tomorrow will come and be a brite new day and I will have a smile on my face when he calls. :)
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Permalink Reply by Sherry Hart on My daughter and I can relate to this. Although we moved halfway across the country, there are still events he misses out on, like our daughter's dance recitals. But we also know, he isn't enjoying missing it either.
We have found there are some things that make up for it though (he's on a 14/14 schedule).
1. Unlike many jobs, she comes home to see his smiling face half a month and he's there to talk about her day with her.
2. There are no obligations during this time of which to take him away - if he wants to pick her up from school and take her to an afternoon movie matinee, he can for two weeks of each month.
3. We can take three or four day family vacations, much more than other families due to his income and time availability. As long as we include an educational activity, our daughter can be excused from school for that time.
4. Those times when he absolutely can't be there, don't be afraid to become a shutterbug and take pictures or video. These can be used when he is at home to talk about what happened while he was away. Sometimes it seems both my daughter and I suffer extremely short memories and forget about things that happened while Ross was working. These photos can jog our memories and we can review the highlights for him when he comes home.
I realize your husband is doing 7/7 with a lot of driving time added in. My husband and I did that for about a year and it can cause a real "disconnect" in family dynamics. Who here hasn't felt as if they were a single mom at some time or another during their husband's careers? On the other hand, having discussed this with my husband previously we DO get to spend all the time in the world with our kids while he is feeling jealous, guilty or sad that he can't be there.
In parting though, I leave with this thought: I honestly believe our children will remember much more of the time spent together than remembering when parents weren't able to come - this is different from parents who choose NOT to attend functions.
Permalink Reply by Angelic Calderon on Thank You Sherry,
I was having a bad night. Most times it's not like that. We loved the 14 & 14. It was great. We always looked at it like he gets to spend half the year at home and when you said that we get to spend all the time with the kids and he doesn't.....That's one of the biggest reason's I stay home with them, so I can be there for all the function's he can't make. The boys also appreciate all that they have and how hard he works for us all to live the life that we do. We considered recently about moving closer to where he crew changes but our boys educations are top priority and we have more school choices here. Bottom line is nothing is forever and work can always change, so we just keep moving along.
Thank you again for taking the time to write, it made me feel good and reminded me how blessed I am.
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